Tell them you believe them.

Reassure them

Tell them that you will do all you can to keep them safe.

Tell them that you do not blame them.

Let them know that you still love them.

Let them know that you are glad that they have told you.

Give them time to talk to you at their pace.

Make time to spend with the child so you can talk privately.

Be open and clear with them.

Explain to the child in words they can understand what is happening with any court or legal action which may be taking place.

Allow the child to talk about the confused way that they may feel.

Try to be calm when talking with the child as they may be confused by anger.

Try to understand as much as you can about the effects of child sexual abuse so that you can best support yourself and your child.

Blame your child for what happened.

Suggest that it would have been better if they had stayed quiet about the abuse.

Tell the child that he or she blame her/his self.

Tell the child to forget it ever happened.

Tell the child not to talk about it.

Get upset every time your child talks about the abuse.