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Parenting Styles
Some Tips for Healthy Parenting
Do's and Dont's
The Five L's for Strong Relationships
COMMUNICATION
Communication is a process
of meaningful interaction among human beings. Here "interaction" means a
two way communication in which a person does not only act but also invites
and expects a certain reaction.
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Being open and honest, yet
kind
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Listening carefully,
without distraction
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Checking the meaning of
messages which are not Clear
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Avoiding "mind-reading"
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Walking a mile in the
other person's shoes
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Trusting one another
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Avoiding criticizing,
evaluating, and acting superior
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Dealing with one issue at
a time
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Dealing with specifics
rather than generalities
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Attacking the problem, not
each other
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Having an understanding
attitude
EFFECTIVE COMMUNICATION
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VERBAL
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EXAMPLES
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1.Listening |
Focusing
on the present; not bringing up past problems or mistakes; creating
safety to express any thing |
I felt
that right now you need me to just listen to you.
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2.Praising |
Givinge
earned rewards frequently; recognizing efforts rather than products
or end results |
You
worked so long and so hard on the project. |
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3.Feeling
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Sharing
feelings such as anger, joy and frustration; using “I’ statements
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I feel...
I am so angry when you...
I love you. |
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4.Respecting |
Letting
others make decisions; avoiding judging and advising; trying to help
him/her make his/her own decisions. |
It’s your
choice.
What can I do to help you? |
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5.Listening |
Identifying the feelings as well as the content and asking the
person to confirm it |
It sound
like you were very frustrated by the class change. Is that right?
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6.Trusting |
Being
consistent; asking for input and understanding the children need to
learn in their own way even if they make mistakes.
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I know
you will be thoughtful and responsible. |
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7.Affirming |
Finding
the positive to expression. |
You are
so competent. You make me happy when you |
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8.Reflective Listening |
Reflecting what another says;
paraphrasing a person’s words so
he/she knows he/she has been heard. |
You sound
angry shout your friend’s response. Is that so? |
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9.Clarifying |
Asking
for more information when unsure. |
Could you tell me more about your fight with your friend? |
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10.Acting
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Finding
physical ways to show care, concern, and attention.
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Making
eye contact; touching when appropriate; hugging; staving near the
person |
REINFORCING GOOD
COMMUNICATION
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Encouraging |
"Tell me more
about the prom ..." |
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Sound open and
positive before you |
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make a decision. |
"It's wonderful
that you want to go ..." |
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Fact Finding |
"I need more
information ..." |
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Get information to
make a decision or |
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state your ideas.
Who, what, where, |
"Tell me more ..." |
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when, why, how? |
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Restating |
"What you're
asking me is can you go to |
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Understand the
facts; be clear about |
the prom and stay
out all night?" |
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what the other
person is asking. |
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Reflecting |
"I know you're
excited about the prom |
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Identify your
feelings and the feelings of |
and you will
probably be disappointed |
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the other person. |
that you cannot
stay out all night. I am |
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glad that you get
to go." |
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Summarizing |
"This is my
decision ... you can go to the |
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Clearly state the
decision or agreement. |
prom, go to the
party afterwards, and be |
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home by 2 am." OR |
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"This is what we
agreed upon ... you can |
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go to t!:1e prom,
go to the party |
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afterwards, and be
home by 2 am. Is |
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that right?" |
If Parents see Poor Study Habits In Children, what they can do:
Studying is
the application of mental faculties to acquire knowledge, reviewed
attentively with the intention of learning and remembering. When this
process is usually accomplished ineffectively or inefficiently then a
child has poor study habits.
TIPS TO IMPROVE STUDY HABITS
Study in Short, Frequent
Sessions
It has been proven that
short bursts of concentration repeated frequently are much more effective,
than one long session. This "distributed learning" approach is highly
efficient. To sit and study for hours and hours is not only boring; it
creates fatigue, stress, and distraction. You can not learn if you are
fatigued, stressed and distracted.
Take Guilt-Free
Days of Rest
The reason for resting is to
refresh oneself. However, if you feel guilty ( I really should be
studying") then your rest period has been used to create more stress On
days off from studying, enjoy yourse1f and don’t feel bad about not
studying.
Honor Your
Emotional State_
Do not study if you are
tired, angry, distracted, or in a hurry. When the brain is relaxed, it is
like a sponge and it naturally absorbs data without effort. If you are
emotionally stressed, your brain literally repels data. Forcing yourself
to sit and study when your mind is on other things is a complete waste of
time!
Review the Same Day
When you learn something
new, try to go over the points the same day. If you wait a few days and
make efforts to review the material, it will seem much less familiar.
However a quick review later in the day wilI tends to cement the
information into your brain.
Prepare Your Study
Environment
If you require certain
elements in your environment to help you study; try to always make these a
priority. For example do you need special lighting, silence, music,
privacy, available snacks, etc'!
Respects "Brain Fade".
Once every two or three
study sessions simply review older material that you will still need to
remember. Often, a quick overview is sufficient. Sometimes. a complete
detailed study session of the older material is required. "Brain fade" is
completely normal.
Create a Study Routine
Generally, if you schedule
certain times of the day to study, you will get into routine and
accomplish more. If you just "fit it in" during your day, chances are that
there will never be any time. An effective way to do this is to literally
mark it down in your date book calendar as if you have an appointment like
going to the doctor. For example: "Tuesday 3-4:30 P.M. - Study."
Set reasonable goals
One of the main reasons
people do not reach their goals is because they set them too high. If you
set goals that are manageable, even if they seem to be simple, you get in
the habit of accomplishing them and gradually you can set higher goals.
Set your vision on the long-term dream, but your day-to-day activity
should be focused exclusively on the short-term, enabling steps.
A parenting workshop
conducted by
Saraat Psychological Help in Collaboration with SAHIL
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